everybody is a winner in this story….

Every spring I watch for the NFL schedule like a fat kid watches a cake in the oven…

The schedule is released in 3 parts: opponents are decided (cake comes out of the oven), home/away is announced (icing) and then finally the dates are made public (get.in.my.belly.)…  This year was a slam dunk (wrong sport), this year was a deep ball thrown against the Green Bay secondary…

My boys were coming to DC (well… really Landover, Maryland); Dan’s team hosting my team… what could possibly go wrong?

If football bores you and you want to ‘X’ right outta this blog – I assure you – it’s worth reading til the end (it has a feel-good Thanksgiving-type ending); if I bore you and you wanna ‘X’ right outta knowing me – well that’s just plain mean….

This specific story started with the release of the schedule back in April – I told, er… uh… I mentioned to Dan I might like to go to the game.  He, being fairly bright, simply said, “ok.”  Fast forward to October 3rd when I told… that is… I asked Dan about going.

LET THE PLANNING BEGIN

Listen, I know my way around planning a game-centric trip.  We’ve been to games (NFL, MLB, NHL) in at least 12 different cities – I’m pretty well versed in this stuff.  I won’t go into specifics – suffice it to say, hotels near Fedex Field were ‘spensive – I mean rent-a-house-at-the-beach-for-a-week expensive (I’m also extremely well versed in the limits to which I can push Dan Iseminger… I certainly wasn’t ok with the prices but I’m pretty sure Dan’s head would’ve disengaged from his body).

I needed to expand the search area.  To that end, I pulled up the DC Metro website and picked a few stops that were easily accessible to hotels and the highway home – Bethesda was perfect; hotel was booked.  I also checked run times – it clearly stated no trains would be running at the time we’d be headed back to our hotel, but it even more clearly stated that trains run late for special events.

you already know where this is going, dontcha?

On Friday we enjoyed 78° – at game time on Sunday we were treated to 34° with 20-30 mph sustained winds and gusts greater than 40 mph.  I’ve sat through a game (that went into overtime no less) that started at -2° with -24 windchill… I’m no candy ass.  Bring it Mother Nature….

We put on our first 3 layers at the hotel and carried the other 2 – nothing is colder than sweaty base layers… ya gotta be smart about it after all.

We walked over to the Metro and bought our tickets.  Interestingly enough – we are considered ‘city-folk’ in the rural town we call home; in the DC Metro – we’re the friggin Clampetts (for you millennials, google: ‘The Beverly Hillbillies’).  I was thoroughly befuddled by the fare-purchasing situation; Dan didn’t seem at all fazed; I did cause a little confusion by running my jib, he muscled through, though and the next thing you know – we were on our way.

Look – we’re so urban:

on-the-metro

We had to switch trains 1/2 way through – there’s 4 college degrees between us so obviously…. we hopped on the wrong effin’ train.  I was at least smart enough to question why I was sitting in the very same seat (albeit, on a different train) with us needing to continue in the same direction we had been traveling yet now I was traveling backwards… it took ol’ Elly May here only 2 stops to figure it out (then I had to convince Dan… Mr. You Just Buy The Fare Card And Go, It’s Not That Hard Babe….).

A little bit of swearing, hauling ass and sweating later and we were back on track (ha! see what I did there? back on track – we were on the train… the pun… get it?).  An hour of Metro-ing later and we disembarked (I’m gonna be honest here – the only reason we got off at this stop was because every other person wearing NFL shit got off, I thought we wanted the NEXT stop… how I get out of my house everyday unscathed is anybody’s guess).

The stadium is 0.9 miles from the Metro stop.  We had walked about 0.4 of those miles when I saw a sign: “The Metro closes at 10:56”.

beautiful

The guys behind us explained that the Metro people want part of the Redskins’ action – Dan Snyder, the owner of the the ‘Skins countered with, “take the extra fares from fans and be happy,” the Metro said, “ok then, we’re closin’ at 10:56 MFer…”

We carried on a conversation with these game-wise guys and they mentioned grabbing an uber.  The Uber, while being a fairly new concept, has become a ubiquitous commodity – clearly not a huge need for one in Everett, yet I’m keenly aware of their existence and was excited about using the service (I’m so worldly).

Cool.  We decided to figure it out on the fly (we’re chill like that).  We got to the stadium at 6:10 and decided to suit up with our final layers.  Cal had already donned all he could don – still cold, he looked over longingly at the Packers fleece I was saving for last…  I’m not proud to admit I contemplated acting like I didn’t see him – damn it, 34° and 40 mph wind gusts – don’t judge me.  Meanwhile, ol’ “it’s not cold ya coupla pansies” was over there layering up like Sybil and her personalities – with no intent, whatsoever, of sharing.

With Cal wearing my sweatshirt, Dan looking like the overdressed brother in ‘A Christmas Story’ and me wondering why I had kids, we set off in search of our seats…

before-the-game

This was at the bottom of section 401 – and while our seats were in section 401, they weren’t actually in this same atmospheric layer.  By the time we climbed to our seats I was looking for a sherpa…

About halfway through the 2nd quarter I saw a humungous individual enter our section from the concourse; as he lumbered up the steps I thought, “no way that guy is sitting anywhere but in front of me…” – well…. I was close, look at Cal’s view of the game:

cals-view

At 10:15 we had to make a decision – Metro or Uber… it was still a game at that point so we decided to tough out the dropping temps and hurricane strength winds (not to mention, the only time I’ve ever left early was during preseason in Pittsburgh when Jordy went down on the 2nd play of the game; further aiding that decision was the 90° temps with 12,042% humidity).  We were gonna uber it…

Dan downloaded the app during the 2nd half of the game in between Redskins touchdowns and rubbing my head, saying, “Sorry babe” (if I could’ve felt my hands and gotten the uber thing taken care of myself I’d currently find myself embroiled in a “when’s the last time you heard from Dan” type investigation).

The game turned ugly (for me and the boy) but we continued our (as yet, unsuccessful) quest for national recognition:

signsin-our-seats

 

 

 

PS – these were fun in the wind.  But more importantly: how are we constantly overlooked?  These signs are funny dammit AND Cal was wearing a homemade shirt AND my hat had blinking Christmas lights… boo NBC… boo

Meanwhile, Cal was breaking my spirit with his whimpering about the hand and foot warmers not working.  He asked to feel my hand warmers… Here’s a pretty useful tip: if you are hangin’ with a person who starts to complain about their hand warmers being subpar – just give them the ol’ man-that-totally-sucks look and go on about your business — do not, I repeat DO NOT – let said person check out your perfectly fine hand warmers.

Did I mention that Dan never even took his hand warmers out of the packaging?

Just to recap:

Dan – in possession of all his layers and unused hand/foot warmers, his team winning their asses off

Cal – in possession of all his layers, one of my layers, my hand warmers, his hand and foot warmers, his team losing, but his beloved dad’s team winning

Me – fucked

Eh… over the course of our life together I’m more often than not on the good end of this in-house rivalry and while I was far from happy with the outcome – I not only expected it, but was somehow ok with it (at least nobody got hurt – a la Favre v. Arrington back in ’02… that did not end well for Dan).

Now… to uber.

Dan had read up on the uber situation at Fedex Field in between cheering and mentioning how toasty he was… it seems we needed to be in lot D – easy enough, especially with the “uber ↑” signs.  We found a long line of people lined up in lot D – all asking “is this the uber line?” (clearly Clampett’s… all of us).  The 3 of us huddled up andDan did the uber app thing, requesting a ride…

A quick primer: you request an uber, accept the rate, it gets charged to your PayPal account then the uber calls and you find each other in a sea of people all trying to do the same thing.

“please accept the rate of 2.7 times the normal rate due to the surge”

(translated: you dumbasses are out in the cold and don’t know what the hell you are doing so we are going to make as much money as possible off you)

Dan hits ‘accept’ because – what other choice do we have?

“you have accepted a rate of $84.35”

…at this point I’m hoping the ambulance will just give us a lift since they’ve spent so much time defibrillating Dan.  To put it in perspective – the Metro cost $10.80 total for all 3 of us, it was 13 miles.

The (barely English speaking) uber guy calls – he and Dan go ’round and ’round for easily 10 minutes with neither understanding the other.  The uber disconnects the call.  We then (serendipitously) discover the uber area – it’s about 1/4 mile further down; we discover this while Dan is running around in search of street signs while in a telephone queue for a cab company.  “I’m not talking to anybody, I’m just waiting…”

Meanwhile a girl walks up to us and asks to use a phone – it seems her friends left her behind due to illness and due to her refusal to get into a car with a bunch of drunks; she is not a Clampett – she is an urbanite who’s phone couldn’t handle the cold and shut down in the middle of her own uber call.

She’s quite clearly single because she got wide-eyed when I started yelling at Dan to hang up with the cab company and try uber again (three weeks into her first real relationship she’ll look back and understand it all).  “HANG UP! I can see 8,000 uber drivers right in front of us – not picking people up… we’re people… we need to be picked up… WHY ARE YOU STILL HOLDING FOR THE CAB????  DO YOU SEE THOSE CARS SITTING THERE NOT DRIVING PEOPLE ANYWHERE???????”

So Dan hung up and retried the uber app.

“please accept the rate of 4.9 times the normal rate due to the surge”

Now… what you need to know is: Dan is driven by 2 things – frugality and sex… I could sense his personal hell at this point; in an effort to help him along I shouted, “REALLY?!?!?!?”

he hit ‘accept’

“you have accepted a rate of $143.95”

Our eyes met through the gusting wind and the frigid temperatures… I rolled mine – who the hell even questions it?  We were minutes from death.

Meanwhile the girl is almost in tears – she’s 24, stuck by herself in a pretty nasty area of town and is beyond thankful that she’s found a family she can trust (although she’s a touch nervous around Dan… ok, ok, maybe it’s my shouting that’s catching her slightly off-guard).

Cal says something about being declined… “what dude?”  “It said, ‘card declined’ after you hit ‘accept’.”  Dan looked and the page never advanced so he hit ‘accept’ again – Cal was right… our card declined.  PayPal locked up because the first uber driver held the charge on our account.

So now… we can’t even call an uber.

good times

I yell at Dan to call a different cab company (by this point – the girl is starting to understand me better).  He calls, they tell him they are 2 minutes out… we all start to relax.

In the 25 minutes we stood there waiting…

we learned the girl is from Wisconsin, lives not quite 2 miles from our hotel, works for a lobbyist in the healthcare realm and wanted to know how the Affordable Care Act has affected us so she can take the information back to her boss…

Only if she were the daughter of a member of the Ways and Means committee sitting in a warm bar could it have turned out better…

The cold was biting through me so I had no choice but to yell at Dan to call the cab company again.

He yelled at me, saying I needed to be more patient; he wasn’t calling them…

The cab company told Dan they were having trouble finding drivers.

It was 1am, the streets were clearing out, very few people milling about, it was COLD and I was actually starting to feel like we had no hope… when all the sudden a car which had been idling near us for quite some time, flipped around and asked if we needed a ride.

He was an uber with no fare and offered to take us to both stops for $50 total.  The girl paid the entire fee in an effort to thank us for saving her (this one was tough to swallow but I told Dan, I’d hope Alex or Abby would do the same in that situation – let’s be honest… Abby woulda pulled a shiv from her sock hours before and gotten where she needed to be with little to no fanfare).

We had a remarkable conversation with our driver who immigrated from Taiwan with his family when he was 10, is a graduate student studying finance and gave us eye-opening reasons for his pro-Trump stance.

After standing in that weather for 7+ hours it took quite some time to wind down and thaw out.  We got ready for bed and all agreed, the 2 hours post-game were rotten, but the night worked out just as it was supposed to – if that original uber had picked us up… if the game had ended differently (with a Pack win, I would’ve sprinted the 13 miles back to our hotel)…. who knows what would’ve happened to that girl; on our drive to our hotel we heard a news report of a shooting only 1 block from where we caught our ride.  I keep thinking of that young lady stuck, with no phone, in that area…

Call it whatever you want – kismet, God’s will, luck…  we were meant to help that girl, of this I have no doubt.

 

a day with pop….

As soon as I got home last night Cal started telling me and Dan about his afternoon at Pop’s.  It’s pretty neat that the kids can just hop on a different school bus and ride out to Pop’s on a whim… oh…. did I say ‘on a whim’? I meant “in a childcare emergency” :/

Apparently there were some tree stands that needed to be moved.  I have a vague idea of what goes on in these situations – that is to say I know what a tree stand is…  anything beyond that – I got nothin’.

So after a day of academic education, Cal headed south for his, uh… more real life education.

I think only the people who know my dad will appreciate this story fully; those people will be able to “hear” him in my words.  I’ll try to help out those of you who’ve never had the pleasure….

I’ve been told I have gift in developing characters – my readers often say they feel like they know the people I talk about… yet I can find no words that will do justice to the man who is my father.  He is absolutely, without question and without compare my true hero – he also competes pretty tightly with Dan as the biggest pain in my ass (meanwhile – for both of them – I’m simply a dream-come-true).

We spend many an evening sharing Pop stories – the 5 I’s often sit around the dining room table, cracking up to the point of tears, telling our stories;  Dan has the most entertaining tales because Pop can really let himself go unchecked in adult male company (based on Cal’s retelling of his day with Pop – he clearly considers Cal, “adult male company”).

My dad is a walking ball of testosterone – period, end of story.  He worked construction most of his life, he hunts, he drinks rum and pepsi, he – to this day – cuts all his own firewood, his heroes are John Wayne and Dale Earnhart – you know…  MEN.

My dad is also a very funny guy – mostly in a cynical, sarcastic way; funny as hell, though.  I get my sense of humor from him – he’s quick witted and (without the benefit of a multi-thousand dollar college education) has the ability to make words his bitch.  His phrasing is what makes him so funny – scratch that, his bitterness in completely benign situations in addition to his wording – is what makes him so funny.

His relationship with my son is one for the ages.  I marvel at the bond they share.  My dad and my brother never had a relationship to speak of – there’s plenty of blame to be passed around in that situation but the crux of the matter is an absolute lack of commonality.  My dad had completely different interests than my brother – neither tried to understand the other.

Along came Cal… a boy who only wants to do what Pop does.  They hunt together, fish together, watch NASCAR together, Pop was Cal’s little league coach for years… they are besties – inasmuch as a 12-year old can be besties with a 67-year old.

Pop, being Pop, thinks Cal is the smartest kid, best athlete, funniest boy ever to grace this earth all while having no tolerance for his air-headed ways.  He will brag the boy up to anybody who’ll listen (and even to those who’ve stopped listening) and he’ll just as vehemently call the boy out for being a bonehead – and I mean, he REALLY calls him out…  Cal takes it all like a champ, and gives it back – much to my horror…

Pop will be scolding Cal for something he’s done that’s not very bright or for simply acting like a goof and Cal just laughs him off – HE.LAUGHS.HIM.OFF!  oh dear God… I cannot put into words the fear which snuffs out my entire soul – my heart starts pumping hard, the sweating begins, I frantically look for an emergency exit…  then Pop just smiles.  Waitttttt… whaaaaaat? Who knew this tactic worked?  All those years I was getting my ass beat – I should’ve just laughed at him…

It would take years and more words than I know to fully and accurately detail the relationship between these 2… Pop loves the girls, too – he thinks the sun rises and sets wherever Miss Alexandra happens to be standing; Abby hits him right where he lives – she is me, a generation later, I am Pop, a generation later…  God help the person who hurts one of those girls….

So back to the point of this story – Cal telling us about his afternoon with Pop.  Remember me telling you several paragraphs ago that Pop clearly considers Cal ‘of age’ – well, I know this because Cal’s recount of the day was mostly a barrage of ‘beep’s and age-appropriate abbreviations (listen…  I know my kid swears, he learned it from me for chrissake… he’s just not old enough to do it on my watch, even if he is retelling a story).

Cal started the conversation wide-eyed and giggling, “Oooooooh I heard Pop drop the f-bomb today….” Dan and I settled in for some good Pop stories…

“So we were heading out to the furthest tree stand and Pop asked if I wanted to drive,” [Pop has an Ace – it’s an all-terrain vehicle with a steering wheel and cage], “so… you know, I said ‘yeah’.” [Cal can barely speak – the laughing is starting], “I mighta, sorta ran him into some briars…” [laughing, bent over laughing], “he was standing there, trying to get untangled from the briars and he got all mad and said, ‘Calvin… there’s 10 acres of field to your right and you ran me into the *F-ing* briars?!?!?!?!”

To be fair to the boy here – Pop is a master of hyperbole… the ’10-acre field’ was probably a 4 foot swath of clearing…

“Then I dropped a coupling,” [it connects 2 lengths of ladder – I know this only because I asked], “Pop was bent over looking for it and all I heard,” [Cal is bent over laughing], “all I heard,” [laughing], “all I heard was Pop… mad… ‘bare ground all around and this *GD*SOB* has to fall in a big *A* pile of rocks, sticks and animal *Sh–*.'”

By this time the 3 of us were in fits of laughter.  Cal just kept shaking his head, laughing and saying, “Pop….”  (As a side note – had I been the 12-year old dropping that coupling… well, he woulda made me climb down and find that *GD*SOB* myself)

I guess at one point Cal was up a tree, on a ladder and it started to fall backwards [think Clark Griswold]; I guess Cal was a tad scared and started shouting, “Pop! Pop! POP!” [the man is cool as a cucumber – I’m sure he was caught off guard but apparently he casually reached out and pushed the ladder back].  Cal said, “He grabbed the ladder and [Cal starts giggling] said, ‘*JC* Calvin, if I had known you were gonna be such a sissy, I’d have done this by myself…”

Cal giggling, “At the last tree stand Pop got his hand caught in a greenbriar… [giggling] so he’s all standing there shaking his hand like this, swearing at the briar,” [Cal is difficult to understand because he’s laughing so hard], “he was just swearing like crazy and I was laughing at him…  he looked up and said, ‘why the *H* is everything so *GD* funny to you, boy?’ [Cal busting a gut]…But you shoulda heard him swearing at that briar!!!”

Yeah…. Cal got quite a lesson yesterday afternoon.  I marvel at Cal’s resilience – my word, if Pop yelled at me like that – I’d probably still be laying out in the woods, curled up in the fetal position, crying; not Cal, he just laughs and says he can’t wait to go hang with Pop again…

The upside is: the tree stands are up and ready to be occupied and Cal is learning stuff that only Pop can teach him (the tree stand stuff… we all have a hand in teaching the swearing part).  The downside: eh… there really is no downside – this kid hears (and apparently SAYS) worse on the bus and in his circle of friends…

At the beginning of bow season Pop was bustin’ Cal’s chops a little, saying one of them had to lose some weight, the stands were getting a little tight with both of them perched in one…  Pop said it in his way, poking fun of Cal’s stocky build – but I saw through his sarcasm… I heard the melancholy through the bite, Pop knows it won’t be much longer ’til his boy is out in those stands by himself and I think he already misses his little buddy…..